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Five Things to Honor Your Mom Everyday

By Danielle Christopher

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Motherless: 5 things to honor your mom everyday

I am walking through the mall with my daughters and see Mother's Day signage. What should be a happy sight, I feel mixed emotions. Ever since my mom died I have hated Mother's Day. I've tried to make it passable by honoring my grandmothers, but it wasn't the same. Now as a mom, I feel I need to participate in the Hallmark holiday.

She is never far from my thoughts. I have been alive longer than her. What started to make the day fun for me was when I began things to honor my mom every day like:

1. I break out pictures of my childhood and share stories with my daughters. By talking about the good times it reminds me I did have a childhood.

2. She loved purses. I have some of hers and have added a lot more since. When I get nostalgic I look at my purses and remember playing dress up with them. Sometimes I will go window shop the purse section of department stores. It may seem silly, but it is calming to me.

3. I watch her favorite movies or television shows. I remember watching The Young and the Restless when I was home from school. The house stopped for that one hour. Watching it today makes me feel close to her.

4. I give myself permission to grieve. The loss of her will always be here. It comes in fast and furious. A trigger can be small or big depending on the day. When I embrace the pain I get through it.

5. I work on living each day as it might be the last. I often forget to make each day count. The beauty is when I wake up the next day it is a fresh start.

I may be a grown woman but I will always wonder, what if she didn't have cancer? What if she survived? What if I had a regular childhood that didn't involve hospitals and wheelchairs?
Looking at my daughters enjoying a mall treat, I know I can drive myself mad wondering the what if's. I might live till tomorrow, or not. What matters is honoring my mom while living my life. Being the mom she was is a great gift to give my daughters.

 

After the birth of her second daughter, Danielle picked up a pen to write the stories as a mom as she lived them. Danielle joined an online class through www.themomoirproject.com where she learned how to craft the stories.
With her creative sanity rolling, Danielle has made a writing home at 
www.themomoirproject.com, www.yummymummyclub.cawww.womenspost.ca and now www.wondermoms.ca. She has guest blogged on many other parenting websites.

You can find her on Twitter as @just_d_world or her personal blog. www.justdworld.wordpress.com